It is Not The Members Fault

It is not the members’ fault that a pastor died by suicide. Suicide most often occurs when stressors and health issues converge to create an experience of hopelessness and despair. Depression is the most common condition associated with suicide, and it is often undiagnosed or untreated. Conditions like depression, anxiety, and substance problems, especially when unaddressed, increase the risk of suicide.


There is no one reason why a person dies by suicide. Now I am not saying that members should not treat their leaders well. However, I am saying that pastors do not die by suicide just because their members did not come to church that Sunday. For someone who is living with a severe and persistent mental illness, stress can be a trigger. If you are living with a persistent mental illness, you have to manage your stress. Pastors and leaders have to be honest, are they performing a job that they should not be performing? And why? Are they emotionally/psychologically whole? Have they dealt with their emotional issues, or are they using the pulpit to work through problems? Are they operating in pride or fear, which is why they can’t be honest with themselves and or the congregation?


Living with severe mental illness, just like living with any long term illness or condition will require changes. Change in how you maneuver life, changes in diet, in sleeping habits, etc. must be managed. If you are living with a persistent and severe mental illness, you will have to manage your stress and make lifestyle changes. Now what is stressful to you may not be stressful to me, which is why you have to be honest with you. You have to be honest about your challenges and take steps to protect your health. You have to know your warning signs, relapse signs, and set up strategies to manage your mental health. 


There is a lot of talk going around about how hard it is to be a Pastor. Pastoring is a stressful job, but so is being a police officer, firefighter, or teacher. But because being a police officer and or firefighter is a stressful job, individuals in those professions undergo mental fitness exams. Pastors do not have such a review that they must pass. So, unfortunately, we have many people who are operating in the role of a pastor or senior leader who should not be. We have many people who are serving in the role of a pastor or senior leader who have gone into the pulpit with unresolved emotional/psychological issues. Then you have Pastors with chronic mental health issues who need ongoing support but who are not getting it.


 The objectives of the enemy is to kill, steal, and destroy. He can accomplish those objectives when we are not honest with ourselves about ourselves. You don’t have to battle your emotions; you can cast them on the Lord and yield to the Holy Spirit as He leads and guides. But you can’t do that if you are not honest and if you feel that you always have to have all of the answers. Pride, unresolved feelings of rejection and low self-esteem, will have us operating in areas like pastoring and other helping professions with a dishonest spirit. It is dishonest when we are not able to open up with what is going on with us and seek the help that we need.  AL (IGBATT Copyright 2019)

Healing Can Occur Any Time

For some people, wholeness or healing may occur instantly through the tools of prayer and faith. For others, the process may occur gradually over time.  But whatever tools God chooses to use, it is still His grace and mercy at work in your life.
 Trust God in the midst of whatever challenge you are facing, and utilize the tools He has designed for you.

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28




Children and Youth

Parents Talk To Your Children About Mental Health

Suicide Prevention Lifeline

1-800-273-TALK (8255)
TTY: 1-800-799-4889

24-hour, toll-free, confidential suicide prevention hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Your call is routed to the nearest crisis center in the national network of more than 150 crisis centers.



What is keeping you from bearing fruit? Fear, other people, past mistakes? Focusing on your past mistakes can keep you mentally stuck and afraid to move forward. Understand its ok to identify mistakes but once you do learn from them and come up with a plan to not duplicate them. Don’t let the cloud of past mistakes keep you from becoming what God called you to be or to bear fruit. Again, what is keeping you from bearing fruit? Find out and make a change. Don’t be like the fig tree in Mathew 21:20. God created you for a purpose. You do have something to add to this World.

Faith Without Works Is Dead

Spiritually emotionally healthy people can assess their behavior, identify areas that need to change and develop strategies without beating themselves up. Healthy people can accept criticism, analyze it, and when required, make changes. Emotionally healthy people understand that people are human, that people will make mistakes and that no one human being should be put up on a pedestal. Emotionally healthy people can confront issues when needed, and they don’t overreact to things in the now based on events in the past. Spiritually healthy people rely on Jesus Christ and His Word but understand that the word of God is not merely a feel-good book. They know that they have to put their faith into action and not use their faith as an excuse not to change. Spiritually healthy people do not use the Word of God as an excuse to hide, to not grow or to take responsibility for their lives.